I’m Never Good Enough For My Parents?

My parents are going through a divorce and they are blaming it on me. They say that my sister and I are the reason and that we cause stress in the family. My sister is a straight A student, very athletic, physically fit. While I’m a C average student, only play Football, and am overweight. I’m a senior in high school and work as a cashier at Walmart. My dad gets mad at me if I don’t go grocery shopping with him so he can get my 10% employee discount. He always says I’m a failure and that I am the laziest person he has ever seen. I like to play video games and for the most part I get all my homework done, do my chores around the house etc… But it seems like I’m never good enough. He always compares me to my sister and asks why I can’t be like her. I want to go see a counselor but he refuses that I go. He says that I don’t need to be brainwashed by some stupid doctor. I don’t know what to do. Every day I have suicidal thoughts but have to keep remembering that it isn’t what Jesus wants. Please help!!!! I’m so sorry this was long I just really needed to vent and I want a solution. Thanks in advance. 🙁

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3 Responses to “I’m Never Good Enough For My Parents?”

  1. :) says:

    I understand where your coming from. It’s like comparing yourself with your sister. Have you taught maybe sitting with your mum or dad and tell them how you are feeling. Maybe, the parents are stressed out and they kind of take their anger on you.
    Don’t worry about it, they are lovely parents. Some people are not as lucky as you are.
    Good luck.

  2. Pat says:

    don’t allow yourself to take the blame for your parents divorce. thats the first thing. Parents should never belittle thier child. you are not your sister and you are not like her. remember theres only one you. you have your own strengths. you are working thats great. You need to decide what you want to do with your life and set some goals and work toward them you will succeed. If you aim at nothing you will hit nothing just like a target. Don’t never let anyone tell you that you are not special God made everyone special right now you might not see that but you hang in there . He has something very special for you. Remember things can turn very quickly . circumstances dont have to control us its our decison what we are going to do with them sometimes they will make us stronger. People who have problems , often want to put the blame on someone else. if you will take the time to think about it you will know that you are not the problem. Remember you are never alone OUR LORD says HE will never leave you nor forsake you. You keep living the way Jesus would want and you will be a success in life.! He has the answer and he is the answer. God bless you I willl remember you in my prayers

  3. Sammi says:

    Being a highschooler myself, I know how hard it is to please parents. Nothing I do seems to ever meets my mother’s standards even though my grades are very high and I am in a lot of competitive sports. This only goes to show that some parents have expectations that just can’t be met. You shouldn’t have to put up with your parents’ treatment, especially your father. He isn’t acting like a proper parent and is only abusing you. You need to tell him your feelings outright otherwise he may never understand the emotional turmoil he’s putting you through. That being said, if a couple gets separated and have the audacity to blame it on their children, it only goes to show what petty people they are (no offense). Know that it most definitely ISN’T your fault and if anyone says otherwise, they’re just angry and are looking for anyone but themselves to blame.
    Sibling rivalry is inevitable and can be healthy. However, overcompetition can lead to strained relationships. Make sure that you and your sister love and care for each other the way you both deserve. You’re both two sides of the same coin 🙂
    If you think you should see a counselor then go see one. Screw your father. How dare he refuse to give you the help you think you need?! Talking about your feelings really helps (believe me, I used to be overweight myself). It helps you strive to become a better person and help yourself through tough situations.
    And whatever you do, don’t listen to your parents and avoid any suicidal thoughts by any means. There are many ways to do so. You could get a hobby (and don’t give up on one because you aren’t “good” at it) or maybe get a plant or pet to take care of for satisfaction purposes. You could even help yourself by keeping a journal to express yourself or through religious thoughts and stuff.
    Always remember that you are special, and that something in you drove you to fight for yourself this far. I suggest watching”To this Day Project” on Youtube – it really helps.
    Stay Strong~

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