Is there a polite way to ask for gift vouchers as a wedding gift?

We have made our home and now are expecting our first child so vouchers would be much more practical, just don’t know how to ask.

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17 Responses to “Is there a polite way to ask for gift vouchers as a wedding gift?”

  1. april a says:

    good luck with that ..i tried it and i regret it ! well not now but at the moment yeah…my family is very old fashioned so they didn’t like it and they say it takes away from them picking something out for you and wrapping it and seeing the look in your face when you open it… its up to you

    congrats on your wedding and baby

  2. will s says:

    its not about practicality its about sentiment

  3. Miz Sara says:

    There isn’t a polite way to ask. Point blank.

  4. The Divine Bubba Blue says:

    You cannot specify what kind of gift you want on the wedding invitation. This is rude because it comes across as if the only reason you’re inviting them is to get their gift.

    What you can do is to a) not register anywhere, and b) tell your family that when someone asks what you want, to tell them you want cash or gift cards. Believe it or not most people do know to ask.

    That said, you must be as gracious and thankful for non-monetary gifts as you are for monetary ones. Strictly speaking, wedding gifts are not mandatory, so anything you get should be accepted gracefully unless it is a health hazard.

    (PS I will admit that I have no idea what you mean by "voucher". Here a voucher is something the local government gives welfare mothers to pay for groceries. It has no other meaning, and they cannot be given as gifts.)

  5. tamara m says:

    slip a wishing well card in with the invites, it’s conventional in Australia to do it that way. here’s a site with some wordings that I like, we’re having a wishing well too! it also has some great ideas for invite wording too.

  6. DARKO E says:

    There is no way you can ask,the better to keeps silent.Whatever God send that is great, take it cool 🙂

  7. Mich says:

    wedding traditions are getting less and less necessary. I’ve been to 4 weddings recently, and they were all completely different. Some had a wedding cake, some didn’t, for example. It’s totally fine to ask for whatever you want. It’s your wedding, who cares what others think, make it your own. For my wedding, my wife and I made it clear that we would prefer for everyone to simply chip in for our wonderful honeymoon. So we got checks from everyone, and no one complained, at least not to our faces, and if they did to themselves, I don’t give a crap, we had a great trip and bought our own blender!

  8. kvsbpv says:

    My husband and I were the same way. We had a child already and had already purchased a house. We registered at the honeymoon.com. It was great. They send you 2 checks definitely a nice way to register without straight asking for the cash.

  9. bowtie_teddy says:

    No. Some people won’t like being asked for money/vouchers so I suggest that you do draw up a gift list with actual items too.

    I would suggest that if you really want to ask for vouchers you actually explain why. For example one wedding I went to the couple wanted a dining table so they put on the list something like this:

    we are very lucky to have kind friends and family but we wouldn’t expect anyone to buy us a dining table on their own even though they know we need one. Perhaps if some of our guests would be kind enough to contribute we’ll raise a glass to you every time we use it.

    They ended up with more than enough vouchers!

  10. Carolina says:

    Yes, word of mouth. There is no polite way to ask for money in writing, be it via invitation, web site, anything. The best thing you can do is create a small registry. Tell your wedding party and parents to discreetly pass on the hint that you need money if anyone asks where you’re registered. If anyone asks you, tell them you made a small registry at ___. They may get the hint from the word "small" that you’re really hoping for money more than gifts.

  11. Erica S says:

    Well you can actually register for gift cards.

  12. ron says:

    We got married in July this year and when we announced our wedding many people asked for a list, we were advised by a friend and this worked a treat.

    You go along to your nearest John Lewis store that has a wedding department, they give you a scanner like a remote control and you both walk around the store scanning all the things you could possibly want, making sure you have a good range of prices to suit family and friends.

    The store gives you a number which you give to all those who ask and they choose the present which they would like to give you and falls in their price range, they are then all delivered together at a pre arranged date.

    If they want to by tokens instead you can add these together and put towards what you want.

  13. Jessica T says:

    No, there is not a polite way to ask. It is always looked down upon and talked about. I would instead just get the word out through your bridal party and parents. People always ask them what you need. They can simply tell them that the best gift for you right now would be gift cards to this or that store. Do not put anything about it in your invites or tell people. Just let them ask your parents and bridal party, the word will get out that way.

  14. thierrysmum says:

    just put a note in with your invites,people wont be offended they like to give the bride and groom what they want.we asked for money or vouchers at our wedding and thats what we got,otherwise you might end up with numerous toasters and kettles lol.

  15. just me! says:

    no there isn’t asking for vouchers/gift cards is the same as asking for cash – its rude and tacky.
    if you have made your home and are so settled and well off that you don’t need or want for anything then simply tell people ‘no gifts’ .

  16. Elizabeth K says:

    You mean like gift cards? You can register for them. Most stores will let you add them to your gift registries like any other gifts. And then your family can just kind of pass the word on to everyone else! Congratulations!

  17. Helen W says:

    When we sent out our wedding invites we included a sheet with maps etc on it with the following sentance

    ‘your presence on our special day is gift enough but if you wish to buy us a gift we would really appreciate Thomas Cook vouchers so that we can ensure our honeymoon is the experience of a lifetime’.

    Maybe you can use something like that? No-one I asked has said that they find it offensive.

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