Will My Son Need Medication Or Can We Learn To Adapt?

I know this is very early to be worrying about this kind of thing, but it weighs heavily on my mind. My sons father suffers from borderline personality disorder (a disorder similar to bipolar but usually much more intense), and I have bipolar disorder. Both of us had trouble learning while we were in school. Our parents were hippies and did not believe in medicating us. Eventually, both of us ended up attempting suicide and sought help on our own from psychiatrists for medication and therapy. We now lead fairly normal lives, except both our academic lives suffered heavily. I feel we both could have reached much greater potential if we had been supplied the proper help early enough. Now I worry for my son.. I can see where our parents were coming from.. If he’s a little hyper, I don’t want to automatically throw him on some Ritalin and turn him into a zombie, but at the same time, if he takes after us, he WILL need some help focusing in school. I also don’t want to discount adolescent depression for “normal teen angst”. Should I give him the choice when he gets older? I just want to give him the best shot possible knowing what I know now.

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5 Responses to “Will My Son Need Medication Or Can We Learn To Adapt?”

  1. Mikey says:

    Just wait and see…as soon as he shows signs of having either disorder then take him on…as soon as he begins struggling in acjool then take him in..

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  3. David Brent says:

    Wait until a problem arises, like poor academic performance or teachers telling you that he’s being disruptive in class.
    Then a child psychiatrist could be an option, let him know that your child is probably predisposed to these disorders.

  4. ᴇʟʟɪᴏᴛ says:

    Even though both of you suffer from bipolar disorder or a bipolar disorder like illness, it does not necessarily mean that your son suffers from one. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Personality disorders are not hereditary, and the genetic link between offspring and bipolar disorder is still kind of fuzzy. I mean, they know that there is a genetic link for it, but how much of an impact that defect has is still in the works I guess.
    In any case, the best thing you can do for your son is provide a safe and comforting environment at home and see how it plays out. Do not be quick to diagnose him with something that he may or may not have. All teens go through that kind of depressive/apathetic stage, you’re right, but if down the line you suspect there may be something more serious going on you should see a therapist or social worker first, before seeing a psychiatrist and putting him on a bunch of medication that will make him feel out of sorts. Psychiatrists are meant to dispense medication, and social workers and therapists are there to identify problems and solve them, and if they can’t solve them or work with the child (unlikely) they will direct you to someone who can.
    I would let it play out and see what happens, but don’t constantly be checking for early warning signs. Just let him grow up and if you see any problems, a social worker or therapist is the place to start.

  5. THERESA says:

    My son has ADHD and I have had this issue – as his father has Bipolar and I have BPD, my son was diagnosed with ADHD and behavioural issues in Jan 2011.
    Anyhow now he has a (25 hours – per week) statement of special educational needs and I worked extremely hard with the professionals to get this.
    I too was really against medication – however I was getting calls from the school about his bad behaviour and extreme outbursts. I was so emotional as I did not believe in giving him medication and it is the hardest decision I have ever had to make.
    I was out of options, so I reluctantly tried him on Ritalin and found that he was even worse when it was wearing off – somersaulting on the furniture…running off in shops etc….
    He is now taking Concerta 18 mg XL (long acting) and now his behaviour has vastly improved and he is much better behaved at school as he is able to focus – it is worth chatting about this with your GP, then Paediatrician, school SENCO, and get this sorted as my son is getting the help now which will help him in the future.
    Hope this helps you

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